Self-sabotage means repeating the same mistake over and over again. In trading, a mistake is not following your rules. The biggest error people make is not taking responsibility for the results they get. They blame others for their mistakes. In this article, let’s discuss four important models of self-sabotage and how it affects your trading performance. We will also talk about the strategies through which we can overcome them.
Model 1: The matrix
The matrix model is based on the famous movie “The Matrix.” The matrix model basically says that we are programmed to perform at a very poor level. You get the appropriate response from the world because of our faulty programming. You perform at a sub-optimal level. You are unaware of what you are are doing. To fix self-sabotage, you need to reprogram your self. This model focuses more on behaviourism. Behaviourism assumes humans as “black-boxes.” Psychiatrist Anthony Robbins said in his model that we are programmed to avoid pain and pursue pleasure, and if we change the pain dynamics, we can reprogram ourselves for success. Faulty programming occurs when a person adopts some belief that is illogical and then gets stuck in that belief which needs to be undone. The matrix model for self-sabotage seems to be very popular, and the one most people use in determining how to fix problems. You only need to determine what is programmed and then fix it.
Model 2: Unwilling to experience feelings
In this model, first, an undesirable feeling comes up. The feeling could be mad, depressed, fearful, sick, etc. Rather than seeing it as something passing through you, you decide that feeling is stuck within you. You are trying to resist the mood, but it becomes a part of you. It is now acting as it is you. The feeling gets stronger, and a lot of thoughts come up for you. When you are unwilling to give up feeling like that, you tend to stuff it and store the feeling in your body. Next time when you experience such as feeling, instead of keeping it within yourself, actually welcome it. In most cases, the feeling simply dissolves away into nothingness. There will be nothing left.
Model 3: Unwilling to experience our creation
This model says that what you create through beliefs, persists; at least until you are willing to experience them. Resisting that type of feeling is self-sabotage. One of the primary reasons why you are not willing to experience your creations is that you don’t like change. You like what you want it to be true and avoid change because it is uncomfortable. You cannot change the fact that the universe is in constant change, and we must deal with it. Each part of yours creates different emotions from its own perspective and its own intentions. When you are trading, it creates some fun and excitement. You must have heard the biggest traders saying trading is boring, but that’s the reality. The solution to overcoming sabotage is to acknowledge the feeling as your creations, experience them fully, including negative feelings. It is that simple
Model 4: Oneness
Your beliefs, emotions, and thoughts do not make you. Those are just objects moving through your consciousness. Instead, you actually are the awareness of those things. You are in energy. We are all creative beings, designed by the source we don’t know. Just like how creations might dissolve back into us, so might be the creations of the source, dissolve back into oneness. Thus, it is right to assume that we are all one. So any action that separates us from each other is self-sabotage. Most of your actions should provide a unique identity of yourself. Believe that you are right and unique and special. Rhonda Byrne, in her book, says that the idea that you create by your thoughts doesn’t work well if your level of power is low. As you go up, the scale of your thoughts and emotions get more and more positive. Oneness model represents the issue of personal responsibility and its importance.
Assumptions in the model
- In the Matrix model, we were assumed to be robotics creatures that get programmed by some unknown source and that programming causes self-sabotage by going against what you want.
- In the Feelings model, we were assumed to be creative beings that don’t want to experience negative feelings because we think we are them and don’t want to feel them. As a result, we create charged beliefs that are not very useful. Those beliefs limit us, and they are difficult to get rid of because they are charged.
- The Creation model was simply an extension of the feelings model in which we assumed we do not want to experience any of our creations. Instead, we think they are us and that they are undesirable things that are not ours. Self-sabotage occurs when you are not willing to complete the creative process by experiencing our creations.
Basically, all the models say that you form a belief that creates your experience. Self-sabotage occurs when you don’t have the experience that you create from your belief. The views that are difficult to change are those that have a lot of negative charges. Imagine the universe as stuff made of pure potential. This stuff is shaped and tuned by your beliefs into whatever you want. When you believe something, the process of believing reshapes the stuff into a reality that you want to create. Think of various possibilities. All the best!